the kids have two birthday parties to attend, t-ball practice and little league practice. One thing that I am really beginning to learn about parenting is that in some cases, more is less. Simpler scheduling can be better and promote less stress in children and parents. The more we allow our kids to cram their already brimming schedules, the more stress, chaos and general lack of serious devotion seems to occur. Sometimes we cram their schedules for them regardless of how willing they are to assume said schedule.
It is my humble opinion that kids can focus and achieve a better equilibrium when their choices are pared down. As much as the word is out that kids need way more physical activity than they're getting, there is such as thing as going too far. It is my belief that kids need down time just like we adults do. This is not to be confused with time spent watching TV or playing video games. I see down time as space in their hectic schedule to process the events of the school day, and reconcile their emotions. Reading books, coloring, crafts, gardening, artwork and writing all constitute down time in my mind. Taking a nap to recharge the battery fits in to my definition - we all need a nap from time to time.
I suppose what I'm objecting to is a schedule that looks something like this:
1. Wake up
2. Eat breakfast
3. go to school - 6 hours - 1st grade up
4. come home from school
5. go to practice A, B, or C or a combination thereof depending on the day
6. come home from practice and eat dinner
7. homework - it takes at least an hour per child these days
8. get ready for bed
9. do it all over again
It doesn't leave much in the way of down time. I think the average kid has virtually no time for reflection or time to just be a kid. Once you start socializing with other parents who have kids of similar age to yours, there seems to be this strange cult like mentality to cram as much "activity" in to your child's life as possible. Your success in effectively "cramming" is measured by other parents in the following way: Jane says, "Susie is horseback riding, taking gymnastics and acting lessons, Peter is playing soccer, goes to Junior Science Camp after that and is on a swim team that meets on the weekends... So what do your kids do?" This whipping out of the measuring stick is standard operating procedure. For those of you who have kids old enough to participate in extra curricular activities, you know. For those who are planning to have kids some day, you will find out. It all adds up to the fact that our society doesn't see value in taking breaks let alone stopping to smell the proverbial flowers. We horde our children's time the way that we horde just about everything else.